So this whole "people I know having medical crises" thang can Stop Right Now.
B with her pituitary tumor, D with ALS, M with his brain cancer, J with her car crash, D with her colitis....I sure hope Hallmark appreciates the money!
I never really thought I was very empathic until people I know started hurting. Then I realized that I've just pushed away most folks so I didn't feel so torn up the middle, so much and so often. Bleargh. (And it really is torn -- like my ribcage is corrugated cardboard and someone's just grabbing one side and pulling... Quite unpleasant, really.)
I'm coping okay with it. It just takes me a little more time and energy to sit back and say to myself Perspective! *snort* Hey, it works most of the time, so don't knock it.
I've been reading this book called "The Secret of Letting Go" by a guy named, appropriately, Guy (Finley). Very helpful. There are certain phrases he uses that I have underlined and have copied over to my Quote Tarot.
Quote Tarot? you ask.
I have an old recipe box full of index cards. Contained on each card is one quote (duly cited). I do a random draw from the Quote Tarot whenever I feel vexed or pressed. (I understand that some people do this with the christian bible...) My Quote Tarot is filled with pagans (yay Seneca!), authors (yay Bujold!), philosophers (yay William James!) and ordinary folks (yay Sophie Veritas!). Random pulls from the Quote Tarot:
"A horse never runs so fast as when he has other horses to catch up and outpace" -- Ovid
"We tell ourselves stories as a dress rehearsal for life" -- MaryAnne, Flights of Fancy
"The present winter is worth an age, if rightly employed" -- Thomas Paine
"Nothing is mere" -- Richard Feynman
"The one thing you can't trade for your heart's desire is your heart" -- Miles Vorkosigan/Lois McMaster Bujold
"Promises aren't things you give to people; they're things you ask of yourself" -- Sophie Veritas
I'm always looking for new, meaningful quotes for the Quote Tarot. Got a suggestion?